Kristy Dorminy

  

 This sweet girl turns 11 today!  I have loved watching her grow and mature into a lovely young lady. Ruby is a reader!  She still loves playing with her dollhouse, and her imagination is out of this world. She is loyal and consistent. Ruby takes her oldest sister role seriously…always ready to make sure Molly and Mack are doing what they’re supposed to be doing. She is laid back, and I love spending time with her. She’s the only child I have that is perfectly ok with silence and just being together without having to be doing something. 

We are taking her to DollyWood today for her birthday. It’s her favorite place!  

   
   

New shoes and earrings and a watch and other fun birthday items. 

I’m sure I will take some pictures at the park and add them later. Technically, I’m writing this the night before from the hotel bedroom. I’m exhausted. We have had a challenging two weeks, and we put a cherry on top this morning when Josh took me to the ER. See, earlier this week I had some sort of allergic reaction — a first for me in all my 38 years. It didn’t let up even after steroid shot and steroid pills, so I went to another doc who gave me another steroid shot and told me to keep taking the pills. Two days later, I still had awful welps and miserable itching. My lip was swelling again, so I start feeling like surely I’m going to die (dramatic much?). So we went to the ER where they gave me an IV of steroids, Benadryl and Pepcid. Fun times. 

Mack was watching all that the nurse was doing and was starting to feel weird. He didn’t say much, but he told Josh he needed to stand up a second. My eyes were closed because I don’t do well with anything hospital related. Evidently, Mack doesn’t either because before we knew it that boy was flat on the floor!  He passed out!!  So there we sat—Molly in her arm brace for her broken arm, me with the IV meds and Mack passed out on the floor!  What a sight we were. The staff took good care of Mack and assured us that this happens often. The girls were crying hysterically because they love their brother and it scared the poo out of them when he fell out. 

Gracious. We have hit a rough patch if there ever was one. I am doing much better it seems…but pray with me that I can know what caused such a reaction. I’ve been a bit anxious about it all and have been asking God to give me perfect peace as I keep my mind steadfastly on Him, trusting Him (Isaiah 26:3, I think).

Mack is doing great. He says that at least now he has a story to tell!

So, Ruby, after a day like today (5/25), let’s hope your birthday (5/26) is low-key and stress-free!  We love our Ruby-Doo!

  

This time of the year many are posting their kids on awards day.  It’s quite sweet, but my kids needed some explanation of what an Awards Day was; we’re home schooling, so they don’t experience some of the traditional things that go along with school. 

However, I had an impromptu “awards ceremony,” and I told their dad how great each of them are! I called them up individually to the middle of the living room. 

I announced each child as, “my star ___ grade student.” They all received perfect attendance and were Honor Roll students (forget the fact that we don’t grade anything).  Ruby excelled in reading. Molly excelled in sewing.  Mack excelled in imagination/costume design/inventing things out of tape and boxes. 

And it’s only appropriate that the “ceremony” was with kids in their pajamas!  I suppose it also doesn’t matter that we aren’t really finished with school either. Lol!  

   
 

Oh, happy home school days!😄

True to every other May, the calendar has been full. Travels, celebrations, more travel, trying to wrap up school work, and on and on. 

This summer I’m leading a Bible Study called BREATHE by Priscilla Shirer. I cannot wait to dive in with other ladies from church. We will take a look at margins in our lives. I can already tell that the Lord has been preparing me for this time. Margins. Rest. Priorities. Saying No so I can say Yes to what is important. Owning my time, under the Lord’s leadership alone. 

It’s going to be goooood. 

So before summer officially begins, let me share some pictures from around here(And around the world)!

   
   

   
   

   
     

   
 

I wish I could show you my favorite picture…but I’m not sure about the rules…..I met some amazing people with amazing stories. Most of the people I met have been in jail for their faith. Many are now refugees; they all are active in the church and their faith is inspiring. 

   
   

   
           

These pictures are from Hagai Sophia, a museum in Istanbul. It used to be a church in the Byzantine period and then became a mosque when Muslims came in and conquered this land.  In addition to taking down crosses, they plastered over mosaics of Jesus. The plaster is coming down and revealing the christian mosaics. The building is now a museum. Inside, you can spot the crosses that have been changed or altered. The cross is offensive and represents the central truth of Christianity…that Jesus died on the cross for the sins of the world and was buried and rose again.  It sets Christianity apart from every other religion of the world. While so many are working their way to God through good works or weighing their good against their bad to secure their eternity, God came down to us as Jesus. Fully God, fully human. He met us where we live!  He did the work. We simply must believe and place our trust in Him alone. 

   
 

Above you can see where they took off the top part of these crosses.

Below is a picture of a large door at the entrance of the museum. You can see where the horizontal part of the cross was taken down. 

  
I Corinthians 1:18 “For the word of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are saved it is the power of God.”

   

We came home exhausted and jet lagged, but thrilled to be back with the kids. Molly had a fall while we were gone and ended up breaking her arm. 

 
She didn’t get a cast though…the break is up high on her right arm and this brace does the trick. After tears of disappointment, Molly was atleast happy that she had never seen anyone with a brace quite like this one. Molly has waited for a broken arm for a while. She was hoping she could have a cast; I was so happy that she could take this brace off for showers and stuff!  It’s going to be a long six weeks, but nothing like if she was in a cast!!

 
Ice cream always helps. 

And then today we tried out the small pool in our neighborhood. 

  Thankful for summer! Thankful for my kids! Thankful for the brace instead of a cast! Thankful that we are in our last days of school work!  Thankful that Josh comes home today from his last bit of travel for the summer…I think. 😊

So that sums up our May so far. Ruby has a birthday coming up, so that is next on our calendar. Fun times! 

Today I had the privilege of teaching my girls about compound sentences and comma splices. It was awesome. At first they were less than enthused about it, but they got into it!  Syntax was something I heard in college in English 101, and I’m sure in high school I learned bits of this….I particularly remember Mrs. Hamilton, my Senior English teacher, harping on “comma splices everywhere! Comma splice, comma splice, comma splice,” she would say in her very southern twang. But Dr.Hines at Middle Georgia College took one morning to lay out the very basics of the English language, and I was in love. I don’t know what made it so different than high school, but it all just clicked on that beautiful fall morning in Cochran, Georgia. I love writing and words and all things grammar. I write blogs all the time in my head that never make it to print because I don’t always have the time to follow through properly. 

There are so many stories swirling around in my head. For example, just the other night we were discussing spiritual gifts as a family. The kids were giving their two cents on what they thought their gifts were.  Josh and I gave some insight, and then Mack interrupted us to say, quite confidently, “Mom, I know your gift. It’s work!”  Ok then. When he saw the look on my face, he quickly changed his tune and said, “Oh and it’s LOVE!  Your gift is love.”  Crazy kid. 

And speaking of a crazy kid and stories I want to write, last night we went to a High school Graduation Dinner. I started talking to the girls about how one day they will have one of those, and I even asked them if they could imagine Mack having a graduation dinner.  They were giggling and saying how cute and funny he is.  Then, Molly piped up,and said, “Yeah, I’ll be at his dinner with my husband and my baby on my hip.”

Ummmm, Molly. You’re only 19 months older than Mack. 

She’s on the fast track to marriage and babies. Dear goodness. 

Ruby is very much a first-born child. Today they were playing in water in the backyard, and Ruby could not just play. She had to have rules. And only her rules counted. And she changed the rules often. It must be exhausting being a first born child. She decompresses by HOURS of reading a day. She loves to go upstairs and get on her top bunk and read out loud. I love hearing her; she uses such great inflection. She also has great voices for different characters. The other two beg her to read “just one more chapter” every night. 

Three little stories all because I wanted to share about how fun it was to teach English today!  

Remember, if you have two independent sentences that you want to bring together, then they must be joined with a comma and a conjunction OR with a semicolon.  If you only use a comma, then you are committing a crime—it’s called a comma splice. 😬 Happy Writing!!

  

A Must Read Book!  

Evidence Not Seen by Darlene Deibler Rose tells an incredible story of her life beginning as a newlywed missionary in Macassar and into her time in a Japanese prison camp during World War II. The suffering she and so many others endured is appalling. I could not even imagine what those brutal years were like. 

The beatings. The hard labor. The lack of warm showers (or any shower at all!), only two outfits, no shoes. Uncomfortable beds. The diseases that set in. The death of her husband. The unknown.  The small rations of food. Fear of being beaten. Medical conditions going uncared for. 

A prisoner of war. 

The Japanese leaders were ruthless and uncaring….HOWEVER, they had some exceptions. Darlene was one of them. She was highly favored by the main guy, Mr. Yamaji. She even had opportunity to share Jesus with him. He was visibly moved by the good news of the gospel–that Jesus died for him and that Darlene loved even him, an enemy. 

Darlene was eventually moved to another prison where she was isolated from everyone. Her living conditions were even more deplorable than the first prison camp. They tried to convict her of espionage, and she even stood to be executed for it, but God intervened. He used, of all people, Mr. Yamaji, to show Himself strong in her life. How God cared for her is overwhelming. 

He intervened all throughout the way in awe-inspiring ways. I cried several times with amazement at how good and personal our God is. 

The scripture was her life. She quotes so many verses that came to her in these dark days. She would remember them at the exact right time. I was so challenged to keep memorizing and meditating on Scripture. It has power!!!  And reading Darlene’s story makes me ashamed that I, in these pristine of conditions, can sometimes find it hard to draw from God’s Word for all I need. However, I have caught myself not giving voice to complaints, as I recall in my mind what life was like for her as a prisoner of war. 

Suddenly, not having anything to wear is not only a lie, but ridiculous. Wishing and wanting for this or that is plain nuts. 

Proper Perspective can come to you after reading a book like this. We’ve read several books as a family that make us realize we don’t know much at all about suffering (And The Word Came with Power and Gladys Alyward…both fabulous reads!).  This one has marked me. I won’t soon forget the suffering of Darlene Deibler and her shining example as a follower of Christ. 

One night after being interrogated at prison, she recalled a poem by Annie Johnson she had just two weeks before memorized:

He giveth more grace when the burdens grow greater. 

He sendeth more strength when the labors increase. 

To added affliction, He addeth His mercy,

To multiplied trial, His multiplied peace. 

When we have exhausted our store of endurance,

And our strength has failed ere the day is half done,

When we reach the end of our hoarded resources, 

The Father’s full giving is only begun. 

His love has no limit, His grace has no measure. 

His power has no boundary known unto men. 

For out of His infinite riches in Jesus,

He giveth and giveth and giveth again. 

I Peter 1: 3-7, 13

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His great mercy has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to obtain an inheritance which is imperishable and undefiled  and will not fade away, reserved in heaven for you, who are protected by the power of God through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ…Therefore prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit, fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”

Darlene most definitely lived for the next life. What a beautiful example she is to me. Please read this book. It’s like a layer has been shed from my eyes to more clearly see the unseen (2 Corinthians 4….”but the things which are unseen are eternal.”)

And this song goes right along with Darlene’s life. She knew that everything was hers in Christ. 
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zokDEfvD5gY

Tonight the kids and I went to eat Mexican and spend Mack’s birthday gift card at Target. I’m well aware of how different they are and tonight it was very clear as soon as we walked in the door.  

 

Ruby was set on not letting us skip our read aloud this evening. She claimed this book as the one SHE was going to read aloud–not me!  And it was only fair considering she has read Caddie Woodlawn three times on her own. She is hilarious as she gets to certain sections she enjoys more than others…and she asks us questions about what we think is about to happen!  I love to hear her read. 

  

And Molly. She was painting her nails before I set my purse down!  This girl is too funny to me. 

  

And Mack, though he tried to spend his money on something other than Legos, he just couldn’t do it. 

  

Sure am thankful for these kids and all the time I get with them. I’m thankful for Josh who works to provide so that my concentration can be at home on my family. Thankful for this season. ❤️

Growing up and into adulthood and then marriage and even with having my first baby, I never thought I would find myself at a homeschool conference. I didn’t have awful thoughts about homeschooling. I just truly never even thought about it for one second of my life. And looking back over the past 11 years, I cannot tell you the first time I did think about or consider myself home schooling my kids. I do know The Lord used people (and lots of them) around me to get me thinking about the idea of home school. I met home school moms that were awesomely “normal” (whatever in the world that means).  I began to realize that there are actually all kinds of people everywhere you go and in whatever you find yourself in to. A very honest friend of mine, when asked about socialization and weird home schoolers, said, “You’re kids will be as weird as you are.”  She has a point!  

Anyway, all of that to say, we jumped into home schooling in 2009, and we have never looked back. 

Now I didn’t say I’ve never daydreamed about having 7 hours, five days a week without my kids…but I truly cannot imagine not homeschooling the kids. I’m learning so very much! And I am getting to know my kids in some fun and challenging ways. 

So I found myself at a home school conference this past week. I could have attended for three days straight, but I attended four great sessions, strolled through the Exhibitor’s Hall and came home to fall into bed at 10pm.  It was enough for me. The rest of the weekend I gathered my brain back together with silence.  Heavenly silence. 

But while I was at the conference I did learn some things. 

Session One-MaryJo Tate     “Overcoming Interruptions and Distractions”

She reminded us that saying YES to one thing automatically says NO to many other things. 

Distractions and Interruptions come in all shapes and sizes. She divided them into three categories. 

1) ACTIVITIES- what do you need to KEEP doing? ELIMINATE? ADD? She talked about delegating some chores…maybe kids can start doing all the laundry or maybe you need to outsource a subject or music instrument to another teacher?  Or what about hiring a maid? (Now that would be nice!)

She encouraged you to study your kids and see what they are passionate about before just signing them up for this, that, and the other. 

Lastly, in activities, she told us to remember that opportunity does NOT equal obligation. You don’t have to do every great thing that comes across your path!

2) STUFF- Get rid of clutter and simplify your life. I think I’m making great strides in this area. 

3) PEOPLE- sounds funny that people, including your children, can be interruptions or distractions. As a general rule, people are worth stopping what you’re doing and helping.  She was just trying to convey that as your kids become more independent in their work, you may want to do some other things ( for her, she edits books as a job), and your kids need to learn some boundaries. For me, if I’ve spent time with my kids with Bible and History and then get them started on a few things they can do on their own, without me sitting over them, then I can go walk on the treadmill and should be able to expect no interruptions. Maybe school is over and I want a nap…that’s ok. Tell the kids what you expect from them and take an  uninterrupted nap. I’m with my kids a lot, so, I want to help them realize I am my own person and I don’t  exist simply to answer their every school work question or help them in all their endeavors all day long. 

Other helpful tidbits from this session:

Use 30 minute screen time for the kids when it would most benefit me in the day. 

When my kids come to me for help about something, first ask them, “What would you do if I were not here to help?”  This just helps them start thinking more independently. 

And my favorite reminder: INSPECT WHAT YOU EXPECT. Ugh!!  Isn’t the fact that I’ve told them what to do and have shown them how to do it enough????? Evidently not. So for a while I will be going back to a bit of hand-holding. I will have to go into the bathroom to see if the toilet is clean, to make sure the mirror is clean of toothpaste spots, to make sure the beds are made nicely, etc. More work for me now, but I am hoping they are actually learning how to clean a bathroom really well. Whether you agree with me or not, it’s a valuable lesson. 

Session Two-Karen DeBeus   

Karen was a great speaker. She wrote a book, CALLED HOME, that I read last year. It is a story about how she reluctantly began home schooling. Her blogs are  simplylivingforhim.com and BibleBasedHomeschoolibg.com. 

I enjoyed hearing how she used the Bible as their only textbook one year, besides still using their math curriculum.  However, at this time, I don’t  feel led to do that!

A few quotes I liked:

“Don’t spend more time reading ABOUT the Bible than IN the Bible.”

“So what if they can read….if they don’t read The Word?!”

“Being a homeschooled should not define us. Being saved by Christ should. Let us be known by representing Him.”

My main take-away here was to start each day with the kids in The Word. I used to be diligent about this. I have my own time with God in His Word, so sometimes I just have them do their chores, have breakfast and then get started on math while I do some other things I want to do and then we move on to other subjects and before you know it, we haven’t read God’s Word together. It’s the most important thing we can study together, so why would I skip it??  So, we’re putting priorities back in order as it relates to our home school routine. And I’m looking forward to it!

Session 3—SIBLING RIVALRY

Session 4— INDEPENDENT LEARNERS 

Both of those sessions were fabulous, but a bit too much to convey through notes. They gave good tips for helping kids realize that the real enemy is satan, and in realizing their common enemy, they will better understand that they should work together against him and his ways instead of against each other. 

And as it relates to independent learners, I think the girls are making great strides. Mack, on the other hand, has a ways to go!  He loves to be sitting right beside me while he works…you know, just in case he needs me to explain something in every math problem to him.  We will continue to work on this with all of the kids. I do not want them to get to middle school and be clueless about completing their work on their own….of course I will still teach them, but for the most part, it’s pretty neat to see how they learn a great deal by reading the lesson on their own. 

While I’m still prayerful about classes we will sign up for and curriculum we will buy, I think I have a plan!  And for that, I am thankful.

  

Here are a few pictures from down in south GA of what my kids were doing without me.