Kristy Dorminy

How many birds sitting on my kitchen window sill will it take for me to fully grasp how much I’m cared for by my Heavenly Father?

I found the blue one in a boutique yesterday. $4.99—a small price for what serves to be a daily reminder to “consider the sparrow.”

“You cannot serve God and wealth. For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6‬:‭25‬-‭27‬ ‭NASB1995‬‬

There’s a gracious plenty that tempts me to worry, to try and control or manipulate a situation rather than to trust God fully and wholly. Three kids—two about to graduate and move into a new, unfamiliar season. One moving back home this summer. All three growing and maturing at their own pace and in their own ways. It can keep me in a constant state of worry. What if they can’t find a place to live? What if they aren’t ready? What if the internship is a flop? What if they meet their spouse? What if they don’t? What if they have a car accident or car trouble all those miles away? What if they hate it there?

I’ve seen people wearing hats or shirts that say, “What if it’s wonderful?”

Somehow that is not the first or hundredth “what if” question that comes to mind for me. I wish it were. I’m trying to move it to the top forty, so that’s progress!

But the bottom line is that God cares for them so thoroughly, so perfectly. He is good. He isn’t asleep. He doesn’t need me to figure anything out. He’s inviting me to trust. To pray. To not worry. To pray some more. And to expectantly look for Him at work through provision and presence.

Because truly, with Christ, it’s bound to be wonderful.

Trusting Him to give me eyes to look for His wonderful working power in all of the circumstances that tempt me to worry.

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6‬:‭33‬-‭34‬ ‭NASB1995‬‬

The girls just wrapped up their Senior year Spring Break. We got a house in Pigeon Forge and some DollyWood tickets and set off for a fun few days. Oh and lots of groceries. Lots.

The weather took a cold turn for most of the country, so I shouldn’t complain about a little snow but I definitely did complain about the snow. I hate winter. But thankfully it didn’t last long. Josh and Molly exercised in the freezing weather on the extremely steep driveway.

Dollywood was fun! It brings back so many memories of when the kids were little. They loved that place. And still do! Josh and I loved that busy season of younger years, but we knew things had shifted when we wanted coffee and to find a place to sit and listen to live music. lol. And that’s what we did!

Thankful for the time away and thankful we could be a part of another Spring Break! Next year it’s Mack’s turn!☀️

Mack’s Spring Break was this past week. He had some appointments that had to be taken care of this week, so unfortunately he didn’t get a trip to the beach. Considering he lives on the coast, I didn’t really feel too terrible for him. And he still has a few years where we can plan some fun trips on his breaks.

We enjoyed having him here. He slept. He ate. He rested. He saw some friends. He enjoyed chill days—besides the appointments and besides my list of to dos that he said I had a lot of. I promise I just needed him to go get an emissions test done. That got done on Friday afternoon, and I am super thankful he obliged.

Molly came home last Monday and stayed a couple of nights. She wanted to see Mack and pick up some dresses for a wedding she is singing in this weekend. I am so glad she made the trip. I always enjoy having her around. She even played and sang for my Bible Study group.

We all three went to the gym on Tuesday afternoon. I enjoyed having them there with me!

Let me end with a picture of my baby Rolo. I still have her following me around! She cracks me up. Like a little person. So sweet!

On Wednesday, we gathered. It was a special gathering because Molly was home and agreed to play a couple of worship songs during our time. It was so sweet! She sang “This is How We Remember” and a song she wrote. I wish I had taken more photos but I didn’t! Just enjoying the moment.

This week we discussed our homework which was all about Jesus’ crucifixion. We discussed how His body broken for us covers all of our sin and daily struggles. We were challenged to take communion with the “whole body theology” in mind—reminding ourselves that the struggle we have about our body isn’t silly or petty or too small to take to the Lord. His sacrifice covered all of that.

We were also reminded through our group conversation that Satan hates our bodies and wants us to hate our bodies. Mainly because our bodies house the living God!! And that’s what we will study this coming week—the Spirit alive inside us.

But as we reflected on Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross, I was soberly reminded that living in my body means so much more than what it weighs or what size jeans I wear or if I can put off aging. I don’t want to spend my life working on my body like it’s a project, but rather living well in my body so that I bring glory to God!

This week we gathered around some store bought blueberry muffins and extra large green grapes and some strawberries—and tea! Always tea.

The week of homework we were discussing was all about the incarnation—Jesus as fully human. And fully God. Not exactly easy to grasp.

Colossians 1:15, 19 “He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all Creation……For it was the Father’s good pleasure for all the fullness (deity) to dwell in Him,”

Hebrew 2:17-18 “Therefore, He had to be made like His brethren in all things, so that He might become a merciful and faithful high priest in things pertaining to God, to make propitiation for the sins of the people. For since He Himself was tempted in that which He has suffered, He is able to come to the aid of those who are tempted.”

Lisa Whittle, the author, is presenting us with the beautiful reality that God took on flesh. He came through a birth. He was a vulnerable baby and grew and matured as a man. He was tempted, yet never sinned. Never. He can relate to us. He came on purpose with intent and a willingness to be our Savior—and all that it entailed.

Lisa says, “…we may think, ‘He came to save our souls, but we are on our own with our migraines.’”

Isn’t that the truth? Sometimes we don’t even pray about the “little” physical ailments or body image struggles we face because we think we should not struggle with these things—they’re silly or we are dramatic or God just has bigger things to deal with than our struggles. But that is just not true. He promises to never leave us or forsake us. He has been with His people from Creation to the tabernacle, the Temple and then the incarnation and He gave us the Holy Spirit when he ascended back to the Father and He promises to be with us in eternity. He is WITH us always and forever. He cares about our body.

We spent time reading some specific times in the New Testament that Jesus met people where they were in their physical need. He “took her by the hand” in Matthew 9 when He raised a girl from the dead. He laid His hands on them in Luke 40, He ate and drank in Luke 22, He washed feet in John 13, He cooked and ate in John 21, He looked at the woman who had touched His garment and got healing from a 12 year issue with blood in Mark 5. Jesus lived and loved in His body—using His hands and feet, His mouth and eyes and He had feelings! Jesus set the example and showed that the purpose of our body is NOT to be the strongest or prettiest or youngest or smallest or smartest, but to love and serve others in our body. This doesn’t mean we won’t do things to keep our bodies healthy and feeling good. This doesn’t mean getting facials or coloring your hair is a sin. But it definitely means these aren’t the goal of living in our bodies.

Thinking about the humanity of God in Jesus for the week was deeply moving. Jesus poured out His life as He lived in His body on this earth. He gave us a beautiful example to follow in how He served people with humility and graciousness and deep love. How much time do I spend thinking about my body in light of how it looks or the shape or how to keep wrinkles away or what others think of my body versus thinking about how my body can be used to love others? It’s worth thinking about and praying about.

I gave out some cute pairs of socks—asked the girls to think about Jesus putting on socks. I mean, such a very human thing to do. And a reminder to be the feet of Jesus as you walk around in your body!

So we have studied the Image of God, the Incarnation, and this week it is Jesus’ Crucifixion. More to come…

Today was our second gathering for Body & Soul by Lisa Whittle. I got the coffee and tea and treats ready. And I set out some small mirrors for their purses—a reminder that they’re made in the image of God. We look at ourselves not to idolize our bodies or ignore our bodies, but to image or “mirror” Jesus to others.

That’s what our week of homework was all about. What does it mean to be made in the image of God? I can answer that question better now than before we started our study.

Lisa teaches that we are made in the image of God 1) to have relationship with God, 2) to represent Jesus to others and 3) to resemble Jesus by becoming more and more like Him through sanctification.

The image of God isn’t about height or weight or jeans size or age or health or abilities. And that should be freeing!!!!

We were asked to share our “body story.” Just the history of how we’ve felt about our body over our lifetime. I’m sure it’s not every woman’s struggle, but many of us have felt the tension between being “fearfully and wonderfully made” and not measuring up to culture’s standards of beauty. I grew up when skinny was in and straight hair was cool. Well, I lost on both accounts from the world’s perspective. I fought these curls and tried to hide these thighs as much as possible! But the study challenged me to find the good in the parts of my body I’ve picked apart over the years and to bring glory to God in this very body by how I connect with God, how I represent Him to the world and how I resemble Him more and more over the course of my life.

I wore this shirt today. It says “slow down, you’re doing fine.”

I’ve been reminded in this season of my life and in this study that God is a good, patient gardener. He isn’t in a hurry as He helps me see things from His perspective. He faithfully and sometimes painfully pulls out weeds of sin in my life. He plants the good seeds of love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness and self control in my heart and waters and tends to them. He invites me to participate with Him in my sanctification. There are things I need to do. There are things only He can do. I don’t need to get frustrated that I’m not farther along in this body image stuff—God is patient and good. We will get there in time! In the meantime I want to enjoy the life He’s given me! I want to have relationship with Him. I want to represent Him well and I want to resemble Him more and more! What a gift to be made in the image of God.

Josh wanted to see his valentine girlies this weekend, so we made a hotel reservation and took off—wallet in hand, of course!

We took Ruby out to dinner Friday night while Molly was playing “Love is Blind” over in the dorm. lol!

Then Josh went with Molly to her CrossFit class before we went to lunch and spent time shopping.

It was a gorgeous day in Lynchburg!

We shopped in Seven & James, where Ruby works. Always so much to see in this beautiful store!

We also went to Ruby’s apartment to let Molly bake some of her famous sourdough loaves. Ruby worked on some photo editing and also got help from Josh on her resume and other graduation stuff.

I did her laundry and cleaned the kitchen—floors and all.

We took the girls and some of their friends out for a Valentine hibachi dinner. A blast!

Then back to the apartment for crumbl cookies and ice cream and talking. They’re a sweet group!

I know the girls think they know how blessed they are to have Josh as their dad, but I never miss a chance to reiterate that fact to them. He’s simply the best. So loving and generous and godly and kind and smart and helpful.

Molly took off for more hall fun so we didn’t get a pic with her!

The next time we plan to be at Liberty, both girls will be graduating. Up next is Spring Break in March though!

I am trying to soak up this senior year with them. I may have cried as we left town this morning. There was a song playing about the faithfulness of God in one’s life and I just feel so grateful for this season and all the seasons that got us to this point. I also battle feeling like there’s never quite enough time with them. The visits are so special and it’s just a tad sad to leave them sometimes. You hope they know how much you love them. How proud you are of them. How often you pray for them and think of them. I love all my kiddos. Can’t wait to see Mack this coming weekend.

How about a valentine flashback for fun?

See you in May, Liberty!

Today was the first day of Body & Soul bible study with my small group of friends whom I love! They’re the best. I met each of them in different places and times and somehow we all come together and just get each other. I have opened up my home to more people at different times, but I felt strongly that this study needed to stay smaller. It’s vulnerable and deep, and I wanted everyone to feel as comfortable as possible to share and grow together in this subject.

We started today with a video by the author, Lisa Whittle. She shared the concept of “Whole Body Theology.” We will study imago dei this week. What does it mean to be made in the image of God? How should that practically look in my life?

I wish I had snapped a few photos to share—like the cute pink sugar cookie heart shaped cookies or the warm breakfast sausage balls or the bright red strawberries. I could have shown the cute heart earrings I gave each friend. Or the adorable socks and valentine hair clip Jenni gave us all. I do, however, have a photo of the gift Jenni gave me for hosting.

I suppose I should make no promises, but my goal is to blog about the bible study each week and share what we’re learning! More to come!!!!

Josh and I took the weekend to get away since we’re celebrating 25 years of marriage. It’s not a secret that I’m not a fan of winter or snow. To be honest, I don’t even like temps below 60 degrees, but when your anniversary falls in January, unless you’re wanting to fly somewhere, you may be celebrating your marriage in a winter storm.

And that’s what we did! Our own city was going to get pummeled with snow, so no need to not go a couple hours north, as planned, to celebrate in the snow anyway. Getting here was easy. Leaving demanded a bit more delicate attention, but we were pleasantly surprised how dry the roads were on Sunday!

I’m so glad we got away. So restful. So fun. Such a great way to be reminded of all the joy our marriage has brought to us. We teared up several times as we recounted life together. What a lovely life the Lord has given us.

We talked about newlywed days. And moves. And jobs. And babies. And friends. And churches. Some funny stories. Some sad stories. Some hard times. Some good times. All of this life—together. We are so thankful for 25 years. Can’t put it all into words—just have to treasure it in our heart.

When Josh would ask how I’m feeling or what I’m thinking, I’d just say, “I’m happy.” That’s such a fickle word, but the older I get, the more I realize when you’re happy, say it and enjoy it!!! Sit in the happiness. Life isn’t always happy.

And lest it seem like all is perfect, Josh still told me “not to ruin my lunch” when I got a cookie from the station they set up in the lodge. He knows that annoys the mess out of me. “I am not a three year old. I can eat a cookie when I want a cookie.” He laughed and agreed he shouldn’t do that. I did something very similar to him and had to apologize but I cannot remember what it was. Lol! Seriously I can’t. But if I do, I’ll add it to this post! Safe to say, a happy 25 year old marriage is not an argument-free one.

I had an early morning spa appointment on Saturday. So after breakfast and coffee by the fire, I made my way down to the spa. And I sat alone in the relaxing room where they come get you for your service.

The snow was steadily falling. The whole ground and landscape was still and peaceful. And I spotted these two trees.

It made me think of Josh and me and these twenty five years. Seasons come and go. Some seasons are active and lively. Warmth and sunshine. Some are stressful and plain hard. And some invite rest and calm. Stillness and renewal. Like a blanket of snow and cold temps that keep you inside and doing next to nothing…but waiting and listening and enjoying the moment. That’s how I feel about us in these days. There’s been a shift. Changes and clarity and an invitation to rest. Take a breath. Listen. Enjoy life. Get prepared for the next season—only God knows what that will bring.

The cookies that got me in “trouble.”

Until next time, Primland! And let’s hope our next visit will include hikes and warmth and sunshine! But the winter wonderland was a sweet experience, for sure! Praying for fifty more years of life with Josh. He’s still my favorite person on the planet.

A quarter of a century. That’s a big deal in my book!

When I think of Josh and our marriage, I definitely count him as one of the most clear realities of the goodness of God in my life.

Just this morning I read Matthew 7:7-11. The part that stood out the most was right at the end, “…how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask Him.”

As I thanked God for the good gift of Josh to me, I quickly move to praying for each of my kids to have spouses that are also one of the most clear realities of the goodness of God in each of their lives. I can’t think of a person, circumstance, reality that more affects your own life than who you marry. I prayed they would have patience in the process. I prayed they would seek God first and trust Him along the path He has for them. I prayed for the spouse wherever they are to be walking with God and seeking Him. I prayed for supernatural meeting that only can be explained by God! These are all things God gave me, and I am forever grateful.

Each year we try to look back on our last year of marriage and assign it a word. Not an easy task as so much happens over 365 days! So what word most describes our 25th year of marriage (all of last year we were in the 25th year leading to today celebrating 25 full years of marriage)? You can read all the other years’ words on last year’s post, here:https://kristydorminy.com/2025/01/27/24th-wedding-anniversary/

ANYWAY….

Year 25: EMPTY NEST. So much happened this year—but nothing quite trumps the fact that this was the year all three kids flew the coop. It’s college empty nest, so they come back to visit quite often, but for the most part the house is quiet and clean. Josh and I love our kids so much AND Josh and I love each other and like each other, so this transition has been pretty amazing if we’re honest. So year 25 has gotten emptier and fuller at the same time. We are grateful for this new season.

Here’s to seeing what God has in store for year 26….